MAILA GIBSON
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding and thank you for confirming your special day with Marry You in Hawaii/Maila Gibson. I hope that you are safe and well
Officiant: Maila Gibson 808-295-4494 - texting is the best way to reach Maila
Legal name (for license) Violet Mailani Lynn Gibson-Bandmann
If you haven’t already, would you please let us know who your planner (if using one), photographer and videographer are?
I am attaching a sample of Maila's ceremony so that you may start to think about your ceremony and what you'd like to include. Also, if you would please use this form https://forms.gle/PMXJbvDJ9VSs2Rfx8 for your ceremony, that will help Maila better work with you.
Also, we would love to share your stories on our IG page. Please let us know how you got engaged, or any story you'd like to share along with a photo, please, along with your IG names.
GETTING MARRIED LEGALLY
Also, to be legally married in Hawaii, both of you will need to go together to the Department of Health within 30 days of your ceremony on a weekday between 8 - 4 to get your marriage license. Please bring that license with you to the ceremony so that Maila may legally marry you. You may find details about that here at: http://health.hawaii.gov/vitalrecords/marriage-licenses/ Please note that once she submits your license that those will be your forever names so please be sure when you fill that out!
THE WEATHER
Although we like to think we always have beautiful weather here, the weather can change on a moments notice. Unlike the continental U.S. or perhaps other places in the world, the 10-day weather forecast in Hawaii is not very accurate. If you see it will rain on your wedding day, a week away, please don’t let that get your down. Weather can be very predictable and you truly just need about 30 minutes of clear weather for the ceremony. It’s also said that if it rains on your wedding day that it’s a blessing.
OTHER VENDORS
If you need any assistance finding any other vendors on the island, let us know and we are happy to connect you with others to help your day go smoothly.
TIMELINE
Within 30 days (or further out) would be when you finalize your ceremony. Consider vow books if you are writing your own vows and give yourself enough time to order those.
If you are thinking of writing your own vows, don’t wait until the last minute for this. Give yourself a lot of time to work on this. If you are thinking of personalizing your ceremony or incorporating cultural elements, this is where you can truly make your ceremony your own, just don’t wait until the last minute.
We are so looking forward to this. Thank you again for trusting us with your big day!
Mahalo,
Loren
MAILA GIBSON WEDDING CEREMONY
Pre-Ceremony Announcement
- Maila introduces herself and encourages friends and family to gather closer and to take a seat as it looks great in photos. Guests are directed to silence their cell phones or put them away completely if the couple prefers cell phones not be used. The ceremony will begin in a few moments...
- Maila and Wedding Party Take Their Positions and Processional begins
- Maila asks the guests to stand for the bride
- Bride is handed off to her groom with direction previously discussed (Isthere an exchange of words? Is the question, “Who gives this woman to be married to this man,” asked? Is there a handshake?)
- Guests are addressed to be present during the ceremony before they are seated and are encouraged as they are important people to the couple
- Welcome to the Bride and Groom with “Words of Encouragement” (custom-tailored to the couple based on previous conversations about how they met, what’s important to them, pets, etc). o Scripture, special readings, lei exchange may also happen at this time
- “I Do”
- Ring Exchange With Vows (either repeat after me or self-written)
- Proclamation of Marriage
- Closing Words of Encouragement
- Kiss
- Official Announcement of The Married Couple
MAILA GIBSON WEDDING CEREMONY - SAMPLE
Family and friends, it’s my honor to welcome you as witnesses to the marriage of Jill and Jack. Before you are seated, Jill and Jack, if you would please turn and face your guests so they can see how beautiful you are today, but also take in the presence of every person here. You are a select group of people who mean very much to these two. You are the ones they chose to share this once in a lifetime moment with. So I ask all of you, would you, as guests, take part in this ceremony not just as onlookers, but as participants? Will you promise to stand for their marriage; to offer them words of encouragement, wisdom, good thoughts, love, and your prayers, throughout their lives together because they will need it. They will need you. Marriage is not something to be entered into lightly. If so, will you all say, “I do.”
You may be seated.
Not only is this a time of joining two hearts to become one, but it is also a time to join two families. A man shall leave his mother. A woman shall leave her home and the two shall become one. Love knows no boundaries and while Jill and Jack have come together to form their own family, the love for the family that came before will continue to bean extension of who they are. Therefore, we acknowledge and give thanks to Jill and Jack’s parents for their guidance and love which has made them who they are today. Jill’s parents have gained a son. Jack’s parents have gained a daughter and both of them have brand new parents.
A special reading chosen by Jill:
“Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, and commitment is stronger. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love. When two people pledge to care for each other in marriage they create a unique spirit that binds them closer than any spoken words.
Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people in love, but takes a lifetime to fulfill. The apostle Paul understood this and in 1 Corinthians 13thChapter, he attempted to define for us what love is – with love being not just an attribute of God, but God being love.
It’s a reminder for how we wish to love one another throughout our marriage. No matter what season of life we are in, what joy or sadness we may experience, what challenge or triumph we come through, we always want to honor one another through our actions, word and love.
1 Corinthians 13: 4 – 8
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
PRAYER
Nine years ago, you fell in love by chance, but you’re here today because you’re making a choice. You made a choice a year and seven months ago to embark on the journey of marriage. You have chosen each other. You’ve chosen to be with someone who enhances you, who makes you think, makes you smile, who makes you dream, and makes every day brighter. You chose to purchase your first home together in Las Vegas. You chose to love your dogs Koa and Khloe who would be here if you could have had them.
Surely you’ve been through many ups and downs together already and regard each other as family. But, may I encourage you today to feel a shift in your hearts as you celebrate being husband and wife. While the comfort and the love for each other may have been established long ago, I encourage you to embrace a “married kind of love.” A married kind of love is a choice. Unlike the way we love our dogs and the way they love us, if we had tails, would we wag them at the sight of each other? Would we jump on each other even after only leaving the room for five minutes? The love between animals and humans is a bit more instinctual. You can’t help it. You just do it. You speak in a high-pitched voice and you drop what you’re doing and put your hands on their furry bodies and are fully present in the moment. For people, it’s not quite the same. We’re easily distracted. We’re driven by goals and to-do lists.
We look at our phones and ipads. We multi-task. It’s 100% true when they say marriage is work. It’s a choice to be affectionate. It’s a choice to forgive when it seems like the other person doesn’t deserve it. It is a choice to approach things as a team. It takes a conscious, intentional effort. You have already proven your ability to choose well because you have chosen each other. After this day, I encourage you, choose well. Be intentional about your love for each other. But, at the same time, fall headfirst into those moments where if you had a tail, you’d wag it.
With that said, please turn and face eac hother...
I Dos
I ask you Jack, do you take Jill to be your wife, to cherish, care for and honor her, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, do you promise to partner with and be faithful to only her all the days in your life? (I do).
Do you Jill, take Jack to be your husband; to cherish, care for, and honor him, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, do you promise to partner with and be faithful only to him all the days of your life? (I do).
May I have the rings please.
May your rings be a symbol of your promises to each other. Notice how they are a circle. There is no beginning and no end. May they not be a sign of ownership. You don’t belong TO each other but you definitely belong WITH each other. Jack, may you see your ring and be so proud to be Jill’s husband. And to be the man she trusts to share her life with. Jill, may you see yours and remember the joy you felt when you got engaged. May it make you giddy every now and then. May you think of Jack as the man you trust to share your life with.
So Jack, please place the ring on Jill’s finger and repeat after me: “With this ring, I promise to be your faithful husband all the days of my life.”
Jill, please place the ring on Jack’s finger and repeat after me: “With this ring, I promise to be your faithful wife all the days of my life.”
At this time, I officially proclaim you are best friends forever, family partners, pack mates, lovers...
PHOTOGRAPHY BY: EUGENE KAM PHOTO, KPIX HAWAII, DEREK WONG PHOTOGRAPHY